Ways To Determine If Your Marriage Is Salvageable

If you and your spouse have grown apart over the last few years and spend more time arguing about bills and household responsibilities than communicating in a civil manner, choosing to part ways may be on your mind. Before deciding to get divorced, consider the following options to determine if your marriage is salvageable. 

Meet With A Divorce Attorney 

Even if youare unsure about seeking a divorce, it won't hurt to speak with an attorney to discuss your options if you decide to leave your spouse. An attorney will ask you personal questions, pertaining to how long you have been married, property that both you and your partner own, and assets that are solely yours.

If you have invested a large sum of money on household goods and bills, a lawyer can walk you through the steps necessary to retain ownership of your possessions and can advise you concerning an uncontested divorce that won't take a long duration to finalize, allowing you to move forward with your life without any obstacles.

Make An Appointment With A Mediator

If you would like to open the lines of communication with your spouse in a setting that is non-threatening, meeting with a mediator is a wise choice. A mediator will allow you and your partner to voice concerns separately and will listen intently as both of you speak. Afterward, a mediator will provide suggestions that will help ease anger and help you and your partner speak honestly to each other without being defensive or overly aggressive. After meeting with a mediator, stay in touch with them so that they can continue to help you and your spouse overcome past issues.

Consider Talking To A Counselor

If you feel as if your wishes aren't being heard by your spouse and have recently begun to feel depressed, speaking with a counselor can be helpful. A counselor will meet with you in a private office where you can comfortably open up about your feelings and any problems that you have encountered with your spouse.

A counselor may be able to pinpoint an underlying reason as to why you haven't been able to communicate with your partner and may offer advice that will help you assert yourself when around your partner or reduce the amount of anxiety that you have been experiencing.  If you are pleased with the results of your first session, continue meeting with the counselor and consider bringing your partner along with you if you would like them to speak to the counselor at the same time as you.